Typically, there are two things that all people have to know before they will open up to someone. We must address these two vital questions to create an environment of grace where a person is willing to be self-disclosing.
1 - Can they trust you? "If I tell you all this stuff, how will you respond? Will you 'steward' my truth? Will you share it with others? Are you trustworthy?"
2 - Are you able to help them? "Why should I tell you if you cannot help me? I don't want to talk just to be talking; I want to be vulnerable with a trustworthy soul who can help me. https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/counsel-person-believes-story-awful-share/
The shocking and inspiring story of Sophie Ottaway.
Watch the full interview here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-490-sophie-ottaway-engineered-at-birth-to-be-a-girl/
Focus on the Cause, not the Effect, so you can remove the cause and not be affected by the effect.
A local church’s worship value is not primarily about the music but the lifestyle because you never ask, “Are you worshiping?” The reason is that we worship all the time. God made us for worship—wired us for worship, you could say.
Worship is part of what it means to be image-bearers. Who could do otherwise? The better question is, “What or whom do we worship?” https://lifeovercoffee.com/three-characteristics-of-a-fantastic-local-church/
Whenever a person chooses sinful anger, he is, in effect, giving the other person control over him. It’s counterintuitive. In his anger, he is like a marionette, a puppet on a string.
Anger toward someone is the total submission of their thoughts, attitudes, emotions, and behaviors to the other person. It is not self-control, as governed by the Spirit of God, but someone out of control or under the control of another spirit. https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-110-help-for-the-angry-person/
