Transactional forgiveness can only happen if a person is asking. You cannot dispense forgiveness willy-nilly, as that is inconsistent with the gospel: "If we confess, ask, seek forgiveness, then we receive forgiveness."
It is wrongheaded to "extend it" when nobody is asking. Transactional forgiveness cleans up the mess because both folks want to clean it up; they are willing and active participants
Attitudinal forgiveness is a "heart of forgiveness." It keeps the victim from being incarcerated for what the offender did to them and is not dependent on any action from the offender.
The shocking and inspiring story of Sophie Ottaway.
Watch the full interview here: https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-490-sophie-ottaway-engineered-at-birth-to-be-a-girl/
Focus on the Cause, not the Effect, so you can remove the cause and not be affected by the effect.
A local church’s worship value is not primarily about the music but the lifestyle because you never ask, “Are you worshiping?” The reason is that we worship all the time. God made us for worship—wired us for worship, you could say.
Worship is part of what it means to be image-bearers. Who could do otherwise? The better question is, “What or whom do we worship?” https://lifeovercoffee.com/three-characteristics-of-a-fantastic-local-church/
Whenever a person chooses sinful anger, he is, in effect, giving the other person control over him. It’s counterintuitive. In his anger, he is like a marionette, a puppet on a string.
Anger toward someone is the total submission of their thoughts, attitudes, emotions, and behaviors to the other person. It is not self-control, as governed by the Spirit of God, but someone out of control or under the control of another spirit. https://lifeovercoffee.com/podcast/ep-110-help-for-the-angry-person/
